isn’t that what your mother scolded you about when
your great-aunt came to dinner? Teens usually have other
things to think about than what are the "proper"
ways to behave in social functions. Proms, are one of
those events that you want to look great and make a great
impression on your date. Your date’s parents (guys
and girls) and the parents of anyone else in your travel
group will probably even review you. They will want to
take those all-important photographs to paste in the family
album. You can wow your date with your impressive social
skills with a few pointers.
Asking Your Date to Prom:
Guys and girls both can ask someone to prom, but whoever
makes the invitation is responsible for purchasing the
prom tickets. Tickets can range in price from $20/person
to $150/couple, depending on whether your school includes
dinner in the cost of the ticket. Many schools’
prom tickets are only admission to the event.
Ask your prospective date at least a month prior to
prom night. This will give them plenty of time to find
a dress or reserve a tux. If at all possible, make your
invitation in person.
Who Pays for What?
Accepting an invitation to prom is a financial commitment.
You are responsible for buying or renting whatever you
will wear that evening. Guys will probably want to rent
a tuxedo unless your prom is not that formal in which
case a dark suit will be fine. Absolutely, positively,
no "funny" wear. Your date and her parents
will not be amused by your creative tuxedo t-shirt or
cut off pants. Black tuxes are the fashion standard.
If you feel creative you can add a top hats, canes and
vests that are either silver or that match your date’s
dress. They’re worn with Euro ties (short and
wide with square bottoms). Girls will need a formal
evening dress. Have a realistic look at what you are
willing to spend for a prom dress. Most prom dresses
are well over $150.00. Alternatives are out there, such
as stores which rent dresses for proms, or consider
borrowing one from an older sister or other family member.
Guys will want to ask about the color of your date’s
dress to select a corsage that will go well with her
dress. You will need to reserve your flowers weeks ahead,
because florists are very busy the day of prom. Each
order is specially made with specific flowers and ribbon
colors. Girls will also want to reserve your date’s
boutonniere weeks before the event. Flowers will need
to be picked up the afternoon of prom, so allow enough
time for your florist stop.
Limousines can be one of the most expensive options
for prom night. You can break down the cost by sharing
your limo with several other couples. Limos can add
to the special atmosphere of prom night. Check out KC
Proms limo options. Limos will also need to be reserved
well in advance. Some companies do not accept prom reservations,
and the price will vary with type and size of limo as
well as length of time you plan to keep your driver.
Remember to tip your limo driver at the end of the evening.
If you decide to drive your own car, please clean both
the interior and exterior and fill up your car with
gas prior to the beginning of the evening. Prom dresses
can pick up dirt from anywhere in the car.
If your school does not have dinner with your prom,
it is normally the guy’s responsibility to select
a restaurant for the prom dinner. Many times, several
couples will travel together, so you can discuss where
you would like to eat. Consider the cost of the meal,
type of food served (you can eat at McDonald’s
another day), distance the restaurant is from the prom
location, and if the restaurant accepts reservations.
Take your date’s tastes into consideration. For
example, if your date is allergic to shell fish, don’t
choose a seafood restaurant; or if she is a vegetarian,
steak houses are out. Restaurant reservations will usually
guarantee you a table at a certain time, rather than
standing in line waiting for the next available table.
Some restaurants that do not normally accept reservations
will take reservations for parties of eight or larger.
When you make reservations for 8:00pm, plan to be at
the restaurant by 8:00pm. You can lose your table altogether
if you are more than a few minutes late. Guys traditionally
pay for dinner and the tip. Check out the list of restaurants
at KC Proms.
Prom pictures are the next expense. Almost every prom
has a formal photographer snapping couple shots in front
of a theme background. Even if you and your date are
not interested in the largest photo package, your families
will probably want a keepsake of the evening. This is
one area in which the guy or girl can pick up the bill,
but discuss this with your date ahead of time, since
these photos can be very expensive.
Does Anyone Still Open the Car Door for Their Date?
When you arrive at your date’s house, you will
want to bring in her corsage. You will pin it on her
left side with the flowers going upward and stems pointing
down. If you have purchased a wrist corsage you will
place it on her left wrist. You make want to bring along
a disposable flash camera to take candid photos of your
evening. Usually your date’s parents will want
to take pictures. You may then, go back to your parent’s
house for their photographs. If you have a number of
people in your party, you may want to bring all the
parents to one house for pre-prom photos.
Even if you would never consider opening doors for
your date, this is a special occasion which deserves
special attention to manners. Open the door for your
date when entering the car, restaurant or prom location.
Guys can seat your date prior to sitting down at the
restaurant if the maitre d’ does not take care
of this. Remember your best dinner manners, place your
napkin on your lap prior to dinner, girls order before
guys, and silverware is used from the outside and works
in (e.g. salad fork on the outside used first, then
the dinner fork). When walking with your date along
the sidewalk, the male belongs on the side closest to
Have a Good Time!
Prom can be a glamorous evening filled with wonderful
memories. Relax, and have fun. Don’t ruin your
evening with alcohol or drugs.